Hello
My name is Kristina Wells
I imagine you as you are reading these lines.
You are capable, thoughtful, deeply responsible, outwardly "doing well". It all looks good on paper, I hear it very often. How it feels inside may be a different story, one you’ve been wrestling with on your own.
You can handle a lot. You manage, build, create, carry responsibilities for your family, work, and the people who depend on you. But when your most important relationships start to feel strained, it affects everything else.
Communication breaks down, conflict escalates or you stop talking altogether. You have the same circular arguments that seem to have no resolution. Old hurts resurface.
Why does every conversation turn into this? Why can’t I get through to you? Why are we still fighting about something that happened two years ago?
And when there has been a betrayal or breach of trust, finding your way back to each other can feel even more complicated.
How am I supposed to trust you again?
Why am I still so angry when I want to move forward?
Should I stay and try to repair this or is this relationship too broken now?”
Can we really come back together from this?
How do we talk about what happened without making everything worse?
I help couples and individuals when conflict keeps repeating, closeness has turned into distance, trust has been broken, or stress and old wounds keep showing up in the relationships that matter most.
You already know where it hurts. I’ll help you understand what keeps you stuck and show you how to change it.
“Being the “best you can be” is really only possible when you are deeply connected to another. Splendid isolation is for planets, not people.”
Dr. Sue Johnson
Why does attachment-based therapy work?
Whether a relationship feels secure or strained, attachment is always there.
If it didn’t matter, it wouldn’t hurt.
Whether the fight is about the dishes, finances or parenting, underneath the argument is a familiar pattern.
How we respond to conflict, closeness, distance, and stress isn’t random. We develop ways of coping and relating that can protect us, but can also keep painful patterns going.
Attachment-focused therapy helps you:
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Stop having the same painful arguments on repeat and understand what keeps you stuck there
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Talk about what really matters without defensiveness, shutdown, or walking on eggshells
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Repair hurt and rebuild closeness instead of letting resentment and distance quietly grow
This isn’t about “fixing” you or your partner.
It’s about helping you feel safer, closer and more confident in about your ability to handle life storms.
What attachment-based therapy is not
This approach might not be the best match if you are hoping for:
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Quick tools and advice without exploring relational patterns underneath the behavior
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A purely cognitive or technique-driven approach focused on worksheets, tasks, or formulas
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Ways to “fix” one person without a willingness to look at shared patterns and mutual change
Mailing address
1271 NE HWY 99w #126
McMinnville OR 97128
Phone
971-267-2789
